How can I get myself to have sex with an escort?

As a sex worker in Delhi, I would like to share my insights.

As others have touch on and as you seem to be aware, the only thing stopping you, is you.

First, you are young so have not yet had time to test out how ‘right’ society is on many issues. The thoughts that you are having are based on general stereotypes, misconceptions and stigma that Society tells us. They are also stereotypes that dehumanise sex workers and encourage discrimination toward people who choose to do sex work.

People who do sex work are just regular people. They are no more out for your money without a care than the person you get coffee [or whatever it is] from every day who smiles and small talks with you while you wait.

When you have these thought’s compare them against what you know as facts. When you answer each question put their job aside and think about how you were treated. Think of your own experience.

They only care for my money

Did she seem more attentive or caring when you advised you were a virgin?
Did she seem to care that you were ok?
Did she seem disinterested and ignored any discussion about your situation?
Did you feel she was patience or even kind and empathic to your nerves?
Do you feel like they did more than the bare minimum?
Do you feel they cared about your needs?
As one person to another person, regardless of the situation, do you feel they were fake when they tried to calm your nerves?
You state that you know its an act and you know they just want your money. Answer this as if you were in court (solid evidence, not hearsay). How do you know? What are your sources? Where did you read this? If you read it, Who wrote it? What are their view of the industry? What can you point to in your life know that proves this to be correct?

Its wrong

The first time I did sex work I thought this too. I thought I was going to hell and I was nothing because society told me I was nothing if I did this. As you go forward in life, you find out it is Society that knows nothing. As my own self worth grew, I realised just how judgmental society is. This industry is not what it is made out to be, even if it is wrong for you, it does not make it wrong for everyone else.

Have you ever questioned this thought? Why is it you think that it is wrong? Is it because you have heard so called facts like what Linda shared and just assumed it was correct? Have you ever spoken to sex workers and asked them about what is really happening in the industry?

One of the most valuable lessons I ever got was ‘question everything’. Don’t accept something just because it looks official. Do your own research. Go straight to the source.

Part of the issue I think is that you have taken on the dehumanized view society pushes. An us vs them. There is no enemy. I am not the boogie man waiting to get you. Neither are they.

If you would like send me a message (let me know its in relation to this question) and ask me anything you would like. Go to the source. Get to know a sex worker. Decide for yourself.

I would disregard Lindas answer. Considering she is against the Sex Industry and the information she has footnoted is by Ms Melissa Farley who is also known to be an Antiprostitutionist and whose work is known to be biased and rarely peer reviewed.